Man in the House

1) Pray with/for your kids. Job made offerings for his kids, just in case they sinned.

2) Pray with/for your wife. Isaac prayefor d 20 years for his wife.

Praying FOR your wife and kids is DIFFERENT than praying with them. Praying for them is what we commonly do. Praying WITH your kids is asking them about the troubles in their lives and leading them in prayer to receive the answers. Praying with your wife goes a step further. Not only do you ask them about their troubles, but you also SHARE yours.

3) Let your family see you reading the Bible, often.

4) Take your wife away as often as possible. She is not only your wife, but she is also your one and only FOREVER GIRLFRIEND.

5) Read to your family. Not only the Bible, but what you are reading, and things that help them grow.

6) Make decisions based on biblical reason, not your own.

7) Don’t rule by the letter of Scripture, but by the law of love. Build their faith by loving them like Jesus. Build their trust by being a servant.

8) Know Scripture for yourself.

9) Love intentionally.

10) Schedule time for each child and your wife.

11) Lead in family Bible Study. Set the time, insist everyone,ne is present and learn together as a family.

12) Lead with humility. Proverbs 15:2

13) Admit mistakes, without fear of losing your strength. You will gain your strength as a Spiritual leader because they will support your decisions ONLY as far as they can trust you.

14) Spend personal time with God.

15) Spend time being silly with your kids.

16) Let your wife vent. She may find it romantic.

17) Stay fit.

18) Stay spontaneous.

19) Always choose family over career. Always! Read what happened to Potiphar in Genesis 39. Yes, they need financial security, but THEY NEED YOU MORE.

20) Show compassion more than you show an iron fist.

21) Hold family meetings. Let them know your plans.

22) Calm your wife’s fears.

23) Find 3 Men of the Bible arn how to be a leader or father from. I like Jesus, Joseph, and Nehemiah.

24) listen to and consider your wife’s wisdom when making a decision.

25) Teach your kids what you know and learn with what you don’t know.

26) Speak positivity into your children early and often. You can do it.

27) Be honest about feelings and emotions. I’m afraid does not equal I’m not a man.

28) Don’t quote the Bible, live it.

29) Encourage your wife’s dreams.

30) set goals with and for each family member and then coach them to the finish line.

31) Share your goals with your wife. She wants to be your GREATEST cheerleader, but she CAN NOT cheer you on if she doesn't know what you are running to.

32) Find other guys to talk to. No one is perfect, each friend has a different strength.

33) Cherish your wife.

34) Wash your wife's and kids' feet on a regular basis. Pray the blessings of God over their lives.

35) Maintain the mind of Christ while interacting with your family.

 I Corinthians 2:10-14

Spiritual Leadership in the Church

Spiritual gifts lesson four: Leadership in the Church

Christian leadership is a dynamic relational process in which people, under the influence of the Holy Spirit, partner to achieve a common goal, It is serving others by leading and leading others by serving.
Leadership is NOT pushing. It is NOT directing. It is giving an example for people to live by.
The gift of Leadership usually is accompanied by another gift, whether it is being a Pastor, Apostle, Bishop, Overseer, Evangelist, Teacher, or some other office.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to lead in your own doing. Even if you are the Pastor of a church, IT IS NOT your church. It is God's church. You will become frustrated and burnt out if YOU try to run things. You MUST cast all your problems on the Lord. He alone can solve the problems that arise. Oh, He may use you to solve them, but unless you allow Him to do the work, it won't be done.
The purpose of Leadership is not to be in charge, but to build up, train and equip the body of Christ to be able to do God's will.

Lesson five: Hospitality

Spiritual gift lesson two

Spiritual gifts lesson two: Leadership in the home

The next lesson will discuss leadership in the Church, but godly leadership in the home is also a spiritual gift given to a wife.
Both types of leaders need to lead. That may logical, but often the husband does NOT lead.
There is a reason a wagon has a handle on one end. It is there so someone can lead it in the direction it needs to go.
God did NOT create us, men, to push our wives, or leave it to them to get to their destination.
If a man pushes instead of leading, he can cause his wife and children not to follow God. He can cause them to not only rebel against him, but God.
A true leader causes people to WANT TO FOLLOW them. Also, people can not follow if they are not being led.
Leaders and managers are different. The main difference between leaders and managers is that leaders have people follow them while managers have people who work for them.
God did not create men to manage their households but to lead them. Your wife is not your employee, and neither are your children.
Leaders lead by EXAMPLE. That men are to attend church with their families. They are to pray for and with their wife and children. They are to show their children how to worship, study the Word of God, and serve. The 

ᴍᴏsᴛ ɪᴍᴘᴏʀᴛᴀɴᴛ thing we can do for our children is not getting them into college, or on a professional sport team, it is raising them to become mighty men and women of God.

A mother may take her children to church just to see them drop out as adults because of dad. This is not always the case, but there is a greater percentage of children not attending church because of the lack of dad's EXAMPLE.

Lesson three: Leadership in the Church

The spiritual gift of helps

Spiritual gifts lesson two: helps

Before I go any further, let me say this, "Verses 1-7 are connected to verse 8 and 10. The entire chapter of 1 Corinthians is connected."
Many teach that verse stands alone, and they twist it to bash God Himself.

but when what is perfect comes, then what is partial will disappear.
1 Corinthians 13:10

The word perfect is WRONGLY twisted to be believed as the Bible. What is perfect in this verse is the Kingdom of Heaven and eternity. Verse 12 validates this.

What we see now is like a dim image in a mirror; then we shall see face-to-face. What I know now is only partial; then it will be complete—as complete as God's knowledge of me.
1 Corinthians 13:12

Jesus has a face NOT the Bible. When we see Jesus face to face, these things will pass away. While the first 7 verses are good to practice in marriage and in relation to all people, Paul wrote this to the church in Corinth because they were NOT applying the gifts of God in love.
The Kingdom of God is here on earth. The Kingdom of Heaven is in...well, Heaven. They often get confused. While that happens, there should NOT be a visual difference.
Let me explain. In the disciple's prayer, the one Jesus taught His disciples, He instructed us to pray for His will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.
The Kingdom of God was given to Adam. He gave it away to the devil. Jesus took it back at Calvary. He gave it then to His bride. The Kingdom here on earth is to just like the Kingdom in Heaven. We are His Ambassadors. We are to bring Heaven to earth, just like Jesus did.
Jesus was His name here on earth. Christ is His position. His name is still Jesus in Heaven. His position is still Christ. Jesus means Savor. Christ means one anointed by God.
Christ Jesus is the proper way to give His name glory. Let's break that down. Christ Jesus literally means, The one anointed by God to save the world. However you say it, Jesus, Christ, Jesus Christ or Christ Jesus, He is pleased when you call upon Him.
When Jesus read from Isaiah, the religious leaders were appalled, because He claimed to be the ANOINTED ONE.

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has chosen me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set free the oppressed and announce that the time has come when the Lord will save his people.”
Luke 4:18‭-‬19

To be a Christian means to be EXACTLY like Christ. So we can personally say that verse about ourselves. Without the anointing of the Holy Spirit, we can't do any of these things.
This is where the spiritual gifts are needed. I chose Helps as the first gift to talk about because it the most unseen gift. Notice that I didn't say hidden gift. None of our talents, skills or gifts should be hidden. God gave them to us so that He can BLESS OTHERS through us.
The person with the spiritual gift of helps is someone who tends to work behind the scenes to get things done. The individual with this gift will often do his/her job joyfully and take the responsibilities off of others shoulders. They have a personality that is humble and have no problems sacrificing time and energy to do God's work. They even have an ability to see what others need often before they even know they need it. People with this spiritual gift have a great attention to detail and tend to be very loyal, and they tend to go above and beyond in everything. They are often described as having a servant's heart.
The danger inherent in this spiritual gift is that the person could end up having more of a Martha attitude versus a Mary heart, meaning that they can become bitter about doing all the work while others have time to worship or have fun. It is also a gift that can be taken advantage of by others who will exploit a person with a servant's heart to get out of their own responsibilities. The spiritual gift of helps is often an unnoticed gift. Yet this gift is often an essential part of keeping things running and making sure everyone is cared for inside and out of the church.
Have you ever read or even heard of the book of Barnabas? Without Luke writing about him you wouldn't even know the name. Without the spiritual gifts of helps working in the life of Barnabas, Luke himself would NOT have been encouraged to write the book of Acts and the book of Luke.
He also encouraged John Mark and brought the reconciliation of John Mark and Paul when they had a disagreement. He then encouraged Paul.
Imagine only the Gospels of Matthew and John. Imagine after these two Gospels only having James through Revelation. Thank God for the gift of helps.


Lesson three: The gift of leadership